If you deal with chronic fatigue, you’re not always going to get it right. Sometimes you spend too much energy and not for the best reasons.
It’s simple: cost and reward. Sounds like a no-brainer. But, is it really?
On the cost side, you’re looking at what energy you have, but also what you’re going to have left over because invariably something is going to happen you didn’t anticipate. It’ll be an emotional event like hearing a loved one’s been in an accident. Or, it’ll be a physical event like catching a cold. Remember, everything takes energy, and if you’re living with chronic fatigue, it’s going to take more than a good night’s sleep to refill the energy reserves.
Sometimes we don’t have a choice about expending energy because life happens to us. But, when we go out of our way to do an activity we should ask ourselves: what do I get for the expenditure of energy?
Let’s take family events. There are no two ways about it our family is one loud crowd with laughter, shouting, objects getting knocked over, bumps, bruises, and a huge mess at the end of it all. Between the preparation, the doing of it all, and the clean up after, these visits cost me dearly in terms of energy. Everyone that knows me can testify I am low in physical energy and more susceptible to a cold for days after these visits.
However, the reward is immeasurable. I glow… for days. I am refreshed, nourished, and exhausted all at the same time.
Some of us may do less than we could energy-wise in order to have some in reserve at all times. Some of us aren’t that smart. And, some of us just like living on the edge of what we can do.
I don’t always get it right, but judging the cost and reward of an activity isn’t as simple as it seems. The way I look at it, if I don’t have a choice about chronic fatigue I do have a choice about how I spend my energy and sometimes that’s as good as it gets.